Domestic Violence

What is Domestic Violence?

Domestic Violence or Abuse is a pattern of behavior used by one person in order to establish and maintain power and control in a relationship. Abusers repeatedly subject their victims to forceful physical and/or psychological behavior in order to coerce the victim's rights, feelings or well being.

 

More than 1 in 3 women say they are abused by a intimate partner at some point in their lives.

 

Domestic Violence is the leading cause of serious injury to women - More common than muggings, rapes and car crashed combined.

 

In West Virginia, a domestic homicide occurs every 14 days.

 

40% of girls ages 14 to 17 reports knowing someone their age who has been hit or beaten by a boyfriend.

 

Approximately 1 in 5 female high school students report being physically and/or sexually abused by a dating partner.

 

The leading cause of death in pregnant women is homicide, often related to domestic violence.

 

How do I know when someone I love crosses the line?

No matter what type of relationship you are in, (husband and wife, boyfriend and girlfriend, parent and child, caretaker and care receiver, alternative) if the other person is hurting you emotionally and/or physically, they are crossing the line.

 

Crossing the line generally does not happen suddenly - It is more like a series of events leading to a place that you never thought you would be. If anything listed below is happening in your life, the line of safety is being crossed.

 

Putting you down/Calls you names; playing mind games; making you feel guilty.

 

Humiliates You. Calls you names, insults you or makes fun of your disabilities. "You are so stupid and ugly; no one else would have you." "You are crazy."           

Controlling what you do, who you see and talk to, what you read, where you go; limiting you outside involvement; using jealousy to justify actions.

Keeps you away from family and friends. Acting in a way that makes friends and family stop coming around; going through your belongings. "Tracks" you all the time.

Using the children/grandchildren to control you.

 

Saying that you are not a fit parent; threatening to take the children/grandchildren.

Using looks and/or actions to scare you.

 

Raising a fist to make a point; giving a look that means "You'd better do and say what I want or else," when in public to remind you that physical harm will come to you if you do not obey.

Controlling the family income; keeping you from working; making you ask for money; taking money from you.

Keeping you up all night before a job interview; refusing transportation to work or school; not allowing others to provide information that will help you become more independent.

Making and/or carrying out threats.

 

Threatening to kill you; taking away medication or medical equipment; exposing you to hate crimes, racism, or immigration problems.

Making light of the abuse; saying the abuse didn't happen; blaming the abuse on you.

 

"I didn't mean to hit you that hard." "I didn't push you, you fell". "Everyone fights, its part of loving someone" "If you weren't so difficult, I wouldn't get so angry."

Destroying property; abusing pets; displaying weapons

 

Slamming a fist on a table or through a wall; throwing objects; cleaning a gun in front of you to make a point; Destroys things that are important to you.

Slaps, hits, pushes, holds you down, chokes, pulls your hair.

 

Causing bruises, broken bones, permanent physical injury or death. Threatens to hurt you or does something to hurts you.

 

 

BREAK THE CYCLE

OF

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

 

STAGE ONE

Tension Building

Abuser has short temper.

Blames victim for

everything going wrong.

 

STAGE TWO

Battering Stage

Abuser is verbally abusive.

Escalates to physical

abuse.

 

P

 

 

STAGE THREE

Honeymoon Stage

Abuser offers gifts - is

loving

 

 

What Can Your DO

To Help Stop

The Abuse?

 

 

 

If you are afraid or in danger, CALL THE POLICE OR SHERIFF

They can transport you to a safe location and provide information about your rights to protection under the law.

 

TALK TO SOMEONE

Part of the abuser's power comes from secrecy.

If someone is hurting you, it is not your fault and you are not alone. Talk with someone you trust - a good friend, a caring health care or social worker, a sensitive family member, or an understanding person from your faith community. Talk to some one who will:

Listen to you.

Believe you.

Not blame you.

Not discriminate against you.

Keep what you tell them confidential.

Allow you to make you own decisions.

 

Domestic violence advocates are often

the best people to talk with in order to understand your rights. They are there to help you identify choices and to help you look at the risks and benefits of those choices. They will not pressure you to do something you are not ready or able to do. And they will keep what you tell them confidential. They are there to listen, inform and support you. Only you can decide what is best for you.

 

DEVELOP A SAFETY PLAN

Plan ahead to know what you and your children will do if violence should occur. If you are ready to leave, have a plan for a safe place to go. Think about setting aside some money and getting together important papers - Social Security cards, birth certificatess, identification, legal documents, etc. Pack a bag with these items, any needed medication, and important contact numbers in a safe place in case you should need to leave quickly.

 

SEEK HELP

Talk to a domestic violence counselor about becoming free of the abuse.

 

THE LIGHTHOUSE

(Weirton, WV)

304.797.SAFE

(304.797.7233)

Domestic Violence Safe House

Open 24hrs a day 7 days a week to help YOU!

 

ADVOCACY

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Parenting Information and Training

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The Lighthouse is available to residents of Brooke and Hancock Counties.

YWCA Family Violence Prevention Program

(Wheeling, WV)

1 800 698 1247

 

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